Sunday, April 15, 2012

On internet friendships

(I was originally planning on writing this for my 400th post, which is coming up very soon. But I'm feeling extra schmaltzy this evening, so you get it now instead!) 

When you're a blogger, there are certain things that you get used to. It becomes perfectly normal to share stories of public humiliation or total heartbreak on the internet. You become adept at becoming insta-friends with a person you've known for months/years online but never met before RIGHT THIS VERY SECOND. Mentioning blogs and Twitter in everyday conversation becomes second nature. And you sigh when people tell you that you can't possibly form real friendships with people on the internet. Because those people aren't real, and they could be ANYBODY, and how could you possibly know them?

I call bullshit. Yes, it's true that online friendships aren't the same. You can't turn up at the house of an internet friend with booze and chocolate when they're having a crappy day or going through a break up. You can't attend birthdays, weddings, or baby showers. You can't go to the movies with them, because (at least in my experience) they live on the other side of the world.

But this doesn't mean that you can't have real friendships with them. I've had people say to me that my internet friends can't possibly know me as well as my "real" friends. To them I say this: You're exactly right. In some cases, they know me better. And so I want to say thank you to them.

To Kat, who was willing to sign up to spend a week in Thailand with me and meet me for the first time at the airport. And who was willing to visit a millionty museums with me in the US. Where's our next trip going to be to??

To Lor and Sweeney. An hour hanging out at the 20SB cocktail party in Chicago, and we were being force fed chunks of ice cream sandwich by a bouncer, and being asked "What time do the panties come off?" by a crazy man on the street. You can't get much more real than that. We'll always have mac and bonfire!

To Deidre, who knew me well enough after an hour-long lunch to suggest ongoing Dessert Days, and who agrees with me that Bill Pullman's hair deserves equal credit in his movies.

To Gina, who shares my love of books and movies, and always has the time to have a conversation on Twitter or Facebook or via email, even though she's raising three kids and doing a Masters.

To Alice, who just plain *gets it*. All of it.

To Kim, who turned my "something fun and kind of bluey-greeny. Hey, that reminds me of wibbly-wobbly timey-wimey and now my brain's in a David Tennant place, wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, DOCTOR WHO IS AWESOME!!!!!" instructions into the amazingly perfect design you see on my little corner of the interwebs. And who knows me well enough to know when I'll get on with her friends like a house on fire, as happened when I met up with Caro this afternoon. 

To Pink Gingham Girl, who shares my love of Pacey Witter Dawson's Creek.

To Lauren, who was willing to take me on my word that I wasn't an axe murderer, and drive from New York to Boston with me.

To Emmy, with whom I can squee about Broadway musicals, and who was willing to jump on the Doctor Who train so that she'd know what the Hell the rest of us were talking about. 

To Tim, for having the world's most amazing stories and for being America's Greatest Ambassador.

And to my BFF, Nikki, without whom I would have no one to rant to about the dramas of grad school, public transport, and Spooks

I'm enormously grateful to have each and every one of you in my life. I love you guys like whoa. <3

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K xx

24 comments:

  1. This proves my theory that I need to spend more time online. There are some very nice, smart, friendly people who I've met online but no one I would say I'm close to unless I knew them in real life beforehand. Glad to know the power of the internet's communication is still serving a lot of us very well. You're a lucky lady! :-)

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    1. I think joining 20SB helped a lot. The forums were a great way to get to know people outside of their blogs. And that led to Twitter friendships, which turned into Facebook friendships. And now it's just a big ball of "oh hai, I'm stalking you on all forms of social media. But in a good way."

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  2. Bill Pullman's hair!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Also, back at'cha.

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    1. Bill Pullman's hair in the 1990s had magical powers. Much like Patrick Dempsey's hair does on Grey's Anatomy. Or David Tennant's hair in anything ever.

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    2. It really, really did. I gotta say, I think Bill Pullman and His Hair deserved a lot more credit than they got...

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    3. YES. I still think my favourite Bill Pullman thing of ever was this ridiculous National Geographic special in which he and Zahi Hawass break open a bunch of Ancient Egyptian sarcophagi. Anyway, at one point, Zahi Hawass gets stuck in a hole like Winnie the Pooh, and Bill Pullman had to push him in the butt until he popped out. Again, like Winnie the Pooh.

      It was amazing.

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  3. My stories are passably amusing at best. But thank you.

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    1. Lies. Your stories are amazing and you know it.

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  4. This is adorebale. You're making me schmaltzy.

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  5. So true - the internet has been the source of some of my best friendships ever and not one of them has turned out to be an axe murderer! So far, anyway.

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    1. This seems to be a fairly common story. Apparently these axe murderers who hang out on the internet are shy and afraid of meeting new people.

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  6. Aaaaahhhhm... how did I miss this post? I feel like such a douche. Also WIBBLY WOBBLY TIMEY WIMEY DAVID TENNANT AWESOME HAIR AND STUFF. Yeah, that.

    You are so awesomesauce.

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    1. Awww, don't feel like a douche! AWESOME HAIR IS AWESOME.
      <3

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  7. OMG I LOVE YOUR FACE. This was such a great way to start my Monday morning. I love my internet friends, and sometimes I do have to explain to people how you all are *actually* my friends. Thankfully people have been pretty accepting of it thus far. :) I LOVE YOU! And thank you for introducing me to The Doctor.

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    1. Love you more. Especially now that you've started watching Doctor Who... ;) <3

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  8. Clearly you're watching the wrong show, Lipsti... Because over here in Sydney, we watch Spoolp.

    But I love you, too. <3

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    1. I believe I covered your psychotic phone and its inability to spell in a previous post?? ;) But yes, we watch Spoolp, not Spooks. <3

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  9. Melbs! I'm so honored to be mentioned. I feel the same way about you, and I love reading your posts. I think you're right that sometimes our internet friendz know us better than some in real life. You just made my whole day. #TeamPacey4Eva

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    1. Aww, thanks lovely! :) And I'm glad I made your day. I swear, the only thing getting me through season 5 at the moment is Pacey. And Audrey, because she's hilarious.
      PS. Bonus points for using hashtags outside of Twitter <3

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